Using
Ego In Closing The Sale
By Kurt Mortensen
In persuasion,
we are faced with the difficult task of building the egos of our listeners
while placing our own egos on hold. In order to effectively persuade,
you have to let go of your ego and focus on your objective. You don't
have time to mend a bruised ego. Check your ego in at the door and
remember your overriding purpose. Focus on persuasion, not on yourself.
In an
interesting study, school administrators sought to find the ratio
of positive to negative statements overheard in the schools' faculty
lounges. Thirty-two schools throughout the nation were visited. Now
would you be more likely to assume that there were more positive or
more negative comments? Negative? Well, you're right, but you may
not realize how right you are.
Researchers
were shocked to tally up the statements and find that the ratio was
6 percent positive statements and 94 percent negative statements!
This is certainly a startling result for those of us who find ourselves
in positions of leadership.
Here's
another very effective technique. Anytime someone challenges your
abilities, especially your abilities to do your business, what's your
immediate and instinctive reaction? To prove them wrong! Try politely
expressing your doubts concerns about your prospect proposal and then
watch the results. For example, if you said to a supervisor, "I'm
not sure you're able to get those reps of yours producing, so I may
hire a consultant." Don't worry, that guy will be on it, pronto!
Or you can say, "Do you really have the power to help me out?"
The prospect
will make sure to show you that he does indeed have that power! When
employing this technique, however, be careful to avoid damaging the
ego. When you cause damage instead of producing a challenge, you will
create an air of indifference from your prospect.
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Another
challenge to someone's ego is commonly used by sports coaches in a
team environment. When during football practice a player is not putting
in 100 percent, is late for meetings, or keeps making the same mistake,
the coach has a perfect ego-based solution. He brings the team together
and explains exactly what has happened with that particular player.
He then has the whole team, except for the guilty player, run laps.
This punishment is a challenge to the ego of this football player.
Such a situation only has to happen once to be persuasive for each
member of the team.
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There
are many challenging messages geared towards our egos. Think of a
multilevel marketing meeting, where managers say they are looking
for "go-getters" and "people who can take action."
Or what about a teacher who tells the student, "I'd like you
to do these advanced assignments"? I have seen sales representatives
make a subtle attack on the prospect's ego when they were not getting
the sale.
They
simply say, "I guess you don't have the authority to make that
decision." You should see the egos take action! Another example
is giving people credit for things they don't even know. When you
give people credit for knowing something they really know nothing
about, they generally will say nothing and allow you to believe them
to be smarter or more aware than they really are.
The catch
is that they then will try to live up to the undeserved credit that
you have bestowed upon them in order to lead you to believe they really
are smart. You have heard such phrases as, "You probably already
know…." or "You will soon realize…" These
are direct challenges to our egos.
When
you find yourself in a persuasive situation, it is essential that
you seek to enhance your prospect's ego in some way. Too often we
present ourselves in a manner that instills feelings of threat, competition,
jealousy, and mistrust. When enhancing someone's ego, be sure your
praise is sincere and genuine. When we solicit someone's cooperation,
everyone wins.
For example,
what happens when a sales associate tells a woman she looks great
in the dress? The woman changes back into her original outfit and
heads straight for the register! She feels great and the associate
gets her sale. Or how about when the lady in shipping says she can
really tell you've been working out? You do your "Can you tell?"
expression, and then the next thing you know, you're helping her carry
boxes.
You get
to bask in the glory of someone announcing that they think you look
strong, and then you're extended the opportunity to demonstrate your
power and might.
We can
all learn from General James Oglethorpe's example. The general desired
King George II of England's permission to establish a colony in the
New World. Yet none of his arguments or presentations, no matter how
carefully crafted, won the king over. At last, the general had a brilliant
idea. He proposed that the colonies be named after the king. Suddenly,
the general had not only permission, but abundant financial means
and even people to help populate the new colony of Georgia.
There
is a particular set of ego rules that should be employed when dealing
with a superior. If you are trying to impress your boss, you should
approach it differently from how you would handle an employee. Always
make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to
please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents.
Otherwise, you might accomplish the opposite of what you hoped for
by inspiring fear and insecurity.
When
a student outshines the master, there is a blow to the ego. The master
wants to appear more brilliant than the student.
Conclusion
Persuasion is the missing puzzle piece that will crack the code to
dramatically increase your income, improve your relationships, and
help you get what you want, when you want, and win friends for life.
Ask yourself how much money and income you have lost because of your
inability to persuade and influence.
Think
about it. Sure you’ve seen some success, but think of the times
you couldn’t get it done. Has there ever been a time when you
did not get your point across? Were you unable to convince someone
to do something? Have you reached your full potential? Are you able
to motivate yourself and others to achieve more and accomplish their
goals?
What
about your relationships? Imagine being able to overcome objections
before they happen, know what your prospect is thinking and feeling,
feel more confident in your ability to persuade.
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